I am so sorry that you are going through this. Breakups are complicated and when you give in your hundred percent, moving on becomes hard. But, don’t worry, I am here to help you out. I know your heart has been through a lot, but i assure you, it does get better. You must be in a phase where you are wondering why things happened to me, why did this person leave and how can i stop crying and missing them. It is hard, but i am so happy you are ready to move on and take care of your well being.
While moving on means meeting the new one for most people, i think there is more to moving on than just that.
If you’ve reached a point in life where you find yourself asking, “How do i move on from this breakup?” some steps can help you heal and find a way to move on. Here are a few steps that will lead you in the right direction.
Take Your Time To Cry It Out
Crying is essential as it is the best way of releasing the pain. If you don’t take your time to mourn, the unsaid feelings will haunt you later. Take your time, curl up inside a blanket, put that good breakup playlist and take time to cry it out. While doing that, don’t be harsh on yourself and just let the feelings out. It’s OK to take a period to grieve the end of a relationship, and it’s OK to not be OK for a while.
If you hold it in, you’ll delay the moving-on process.
Get it all out emotionally so you can move on.
Have your breakdowns, and know that crying and letting it out will be your strength in the end.
Don’t Feel Like A Victim
Things end for a reason at times, and even when someone breaks our heart, most of us tend to feel so low and feel like a victim in the end. We feel like why did this happen to me and feel like we aren’t good enough, which is not an excellent way to move on. If someone let you go or a relationship ended it maybe for a reason that was for your best. It’s normal to feel guilty or angry, but if you keep feeling that way you won’t grow in life. Don’t feel like a victim or a villain. It all didn’t work out and you need to accept the beauty of it and the end.
Try your best not to feed into ideas that you never deserved your ex or that they never deserved you. You shared a beautiful relationship and it ended maybe because you both we not aligned for each other and had different paths to life.
Accept That There Is No Closure
We all feel like we need to know why our ex hurt us, and sometimes we can’t move on till we get that closure. But, closure is in knowing that this chapter has ended for a reason and that no matter what justification and explanation your ex gives you, you will only move on once you accept that this breakup was unfortunate but may be good because you weren’t meant to be together.
It would help if you accepted the breakup and closure in facing that it ended and believing that what is meant to be yours is coming your way.
Unfollow Them From Social Media And Don’t Stay Connected
Looking at their stories, knowing about their whereabouts, and wondering if they have watched your stories and why they didn’t react or comment on your post will make you feel terrible and not let you move on. You need to unfollow them or block them to let this feeling of validation from your ex go away. You need to know that you do not need their validation and are fine without them.
Most of us can stay friends with a few exes, but if the breakup hurt a lot, maybe marinating your distance and wishing well for them will help. The more space you can create between you and your ex, the quicker you will be on your road to recovery. Continuing to reach out usually only leads to more hurt and emotional confusion.
Learn From The Relationship
We all learn a lot from the people we meet and spend time with. Look back at the relationship and learn the lessons from it. Maybe it was that you trusted someone too soon or that you settled for someone who didn’t give out the same love. View the time and see What areas went wrong? What did it teach you about what you want and what doesn’t work for you?
How can you be a better person and partner going forward? Once you get hold of the lessons, you will be able to move on and know what you want from the next relationship and what you can change to be a happy person and attract the best partner.
Keep Yourself Busy
Find time to do the things that you like. If you want to read books, watch a new show, study something new, take your fitness to a new level, learn a new skill or do something that’s been on your bucket list forever. Keep yourself busy growing yourself and being your higher self with good habits and spending time doing something instead of thinking about the past. An idle mind can lead to all sorts of unnecessary anxiety, so staying busy can be a game-changer after a breakup.
Know That True Love Is Coming Your Way
This was an end of a chapter and not your love story! You need to believe that you are a being of love and deserve the best form of love. This was the end of a chapter but know that the one who will truly get you and stay with you always and grow in life with you is coming your way. When we break up, we feel like we are done with love because we are scared of falling in it and feel like we don’t deserve love. But, that is not true. You need to believe that you are worthy of love and know that the right person is coming your way.
All you need to do right now is feel the love within and heal yourself with it. Once you are happy and in good energy and believe that you are worthy of great things, the best form of love will come your way.
I hope these steps helped you. Wishing that you heal soon and find the oasis of love within.